How to Ask Good Questions and Build Rapport with Anyone

The prospect of returning to social interactions after two years of isolation may bring excitement, but for many, it also ushers in a sense of awkwardness. In this insightful guide, Riaz Meghji explores strategies to navigate this social terrain, offering ideas on asking good questions, expanding small talk, and making meaningful connections. Whether engaging in one-on-one conversations, conducting interviews, or presenting to a live audience, these principles are applicable across various scenarios.

The Social Awakening: Overcoming Awkwardness

Embracing the New Normal

After a prolonged period of isolation, social skills may feel rusty. Riaz Meghji acknowledges this reality and addresses the awkwardness that many may experience when attempting to reconnect. The video accompanying this guide provides practical ideas to overcome social discomfort and enhance communication skills.

Igniting Curiosity for Deeper Connections

The Power of Curiosity in Teams

Curiosity serves as a catalyst for deeper connections. Teams that cultivate curiosity work more efficiently, communicate better, and experience fewer conflicts. Riaz Meghji emphasizes the role of genuine interest in building trust faster. By developing a profound understanding of someone before demonstrating it, individuals can create a strong foundation for meaningful connections.

Actionable Tip: Before engaging in a conversation, consider the three main questions people subconsciously ask when meeting someone new: Do you care about me? Are you listening to me? Can I trust you?

Eliciting Positive Emotions

Putting the Focus on Others

To skip the small talk and forge a connection, Riaz shares the wisdom of Psychiatrist Gordon Livingston. The happiest people, as observed through countless studies, have three things in common: something to do, someone to love, and something to look forward to. When unsure of what to say, redirect the conversation to inquire about the other person's creations, loved ones, and aspirations.

Actionable Tip: Use open-ended questions that begin with 'how' or 'what' to deepen conversations. For instance, ask about what someone is creating, who they love, or what they're looking forward to.

Getting to the Essence: Direct and Concise Communication

Avoiding the Trap of Overwhelming Questions

One common pitfall is starting conversations with long-winded introductions or complicated setups. To foster a deeper connection, Riaz advises being concise, direct, and getting to the point swiftly. Utilize open-ended questions starting with 'how' or 'what' to allow more room for meaningful conversation.

Actionable Tip: Prepare one to two sentence questions that encourage thoughtful responses. Follow up with additional open-ended questions to delve deeper into the conversation.

Improvisation for Genuine Connection

Balancing Preparedness and Authenticity

While preparation is essential, over-reliance on scripted questions can hinder genuine connection. Riaz draws on his experience in television to emphasize the value of improvisation. Listening actively during conversations allows for a more authentic connection, going beyond rehearsed answers to create a meaningful dialogue.

Actionable Tip: Over-prepare to improvise. Know the basics but be ready to set aside planned questions to engage authentically with the conversation.

The Power of Silence

Turning Silence into a Tool

Silence is often feared, but Riaz encourages embracing it as a tool. After posing a question, allow for a pause. The initial awkwardness may signal that the individual is reflecting on the inquiry. Resisting the urge to fill the silence can lead to profound responses and a deeper connection.

Actionable Tip: When met with silence, resist the urge to interject. Allow the pause to unfold naturally, providing space for genuine reflection and meaningful responses.

Watch This Session for Deeper Connections

For a more in-depth exploration of these principles and their application in various social scenarios, watch the full video session linked below. Riaz Meghji's insights will equip you with valuable strategies to enhance your social skills, make deeper connections, and elevate your overall impact.

Navigating social interactions post-isolation requires finesse and intentionality. By incorporating these strategies into your approach, you can overcome social awkwardness, foster genuine connections, and leave a lasting impact.